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Sunday Brunch Chat

Sunday, May 23rd, 2010

It’s been a long time since I’ve blogged. Blame it on new social networking sites coupled with my continued job hunt. I have never, ever been out of work this long in my entire adult life. It’s frustrating and humiliating. Another thing — it’s forced me to face a certain change in New York City. I love this town. I wanted to come here and work ever since I was a kid back in Southern California. There’s long been sort of a East Coast/West Coast friendly rivalry between L.A. and NYC. New York considers itself sharper and smarter. In many ways, it has been. However, this year, in a bleak economy that continues to drag us around like we’re the chains attached to the ghost of Jacob Marley, I have been called back for second, third or fourth meetings with possible employers only to discover that the executives still had not read my resumé. To me, that was a red flag. I was up for a publicist job with a local non-profit arts organization. Our first meeting was in early February. In late March, they wanted to schedule a fifth meeting for early April. The boss wanted to know if I had any local TV/Radio connections. “Local? I’ve got local AND national. You’ve read my resumé, haven’t you?” The answer was, “Uh, no, I didn’t get around to it yet.” I decided to move on and apply for work elsewhere. But that wasn’t the first nor last time that sort of thing has happened to me while I’ve been seeking work. It’s happened to others I know here in town too. I never thought that sort of occupational laziness would occur in New York.

My heart broke to hear the news that singer/actress/civil rights advocate Lena Horne had died. What a life. What a talent. Larry Moss is a noted, highly-respected acting coach who has guided several actors to Oscar nominations such as Hilary Swank, Helen Hunt and Michael Clarke Duncan. His services was so in demand that he put his lessons in a book to free himself up to pursue other interests. His immensely helpful book is The Intent to Live: Achieving Your True Potential as an Actor. Larry Moss considered Lena Horne an outstanding actress and explains why in his book. I saw him speak at a crowded book singing once here in Manhattan. He told the many young actors in the audience to buy the CD of Lena Horne’s “The Lady and Her Music” one-woman, Tony Award-winning 1980s Broadway triumph. He told them that the life she gave to every song, treating each one as a monologue, is a performance that is as much a required learning experience as watching Brando in “On The Waterfront.” How sad that, when Lena Horne was a musical movie star as MGM in the 1940s, she could not act opposite the white fellow MGM musical stars because of racism of the time. I don’t know if, even in this age of a Black American president, folks totally grasp that. My longtime buddy, James Gavin, is out promoting the newly released paperback edition of his terrific Lena Horne biography from last year, Stormy Weather: The Life of Lena Horne. Your jaw will drop reading the new information he found out — like the movies mentioned for her but were abandoned because of pre-Civil Rights attitudes. How she threw things at her TV whenever President Bush appeared on it. Her complicated marriage to Lennie Hayton, a white Oscar winner and one of the A-list players in MGM’s music department. Horne’s fractured relationship with her mother against the backdrop of a racially changing America could serve as the basis for a new Broadway musical drama of Black Americans that could be as powerful as “Gypsy.” Even if Jim and I weren’t friends, I’d say that his fine book deserves way more attention than it has received. Jim and I were on a national radio show last summer discussing the book. We brought up how Horne, during a WWII USO tour, could not get served at a diner down South. The host said, “Didn’t they know she was Lena Horne?” We had to tell him on the air that it didn’t matter that she was a Hollywood movie star. She was a Black person and the diner did not serve Black people. I added that we still have racial issues today. Just because Barack Obama got elected President doesn’t mean they’ve been solved. Remember the day Michael Jackson died? Farrah Fawcett of “Charlie’s Angels” TV fame died earlier that same day. On Facebook, all the messages from people of all colors were pretty much the same for Farrah: “We’ll miss you. Heaven got a new Angel today.” That afternoon, when Black pop music international superstar Michael Jackson died, all the Black and Latino folks wrote “We’ll miss you, Michael.” Many Caucasians wrote “He was black?!?!?” That caused online friction. Yes, Jackson, lightened his skin. But why did Black folks lighten their skin? Basically, so they’d be served at the diner the way Lena Horne wasn’t. The people who wrote the wisecracks are the people who have always had access because of their color. Lena Horne will be missed. I got to meet her once during a press conference when she toured with her Broadway success. Her manager contacted me afterwards. Lena Horne later met with my mother and offered her a job. (A job offer my mother should have taken but that’s another story.) I thank Horne for kicking down thick doors so that less-talented guys like yours truly could have better chances than she had.

Tonight, millions will be watching the finale of Lost of ABC. I didn’t follow the series as religiously as many of my friends did. I will watch the finale because I hope it answers one thing — how could Hurley be lost on that deserted tropical island for as long as he’s been and not drop a couple of pounds like Tom Hanks did in Cast Away? I just don’t get it. Have a great week.

hump day holiday

Tuesday, November 10th, 2009

When I was a kid, I loved seeing that a number or two numbers in red fell on a Wednesday. On the family calendars we always seemed to have hanging in the kitchen, holidays got red numbers. A national holiday on a Wednesday was a major thrill to me because Monday would feel like Thursday and Tuesday would feel like a Friday. We have the day off and then just have two days before the weekend. Cool!

Tomorrow is Veterans Day, a national holiday. Remember how much red, white and blue we saw in our neighborhoods in the wake of and immediate years following the attacks of September 11th? We don’t see those colors displayed so much anymore where I live. I noticed that last year on the 4th of July. All the flags that were unfurled in front of apartment buildings and stores and local businesses were, I guess, once again furled.

We’re in two wars that are as emotionally and financially draining as having a child with a disease that needs requires it to need much therapy and medication. We have women and men serving overseas. Mothers and fathers. Not all young either. Many men are over 50. Many of those men and women have been re-deployed. Their tours of duty have been completed and they’ve been called back into service again. To honor them, to honor the veterans of the past, and to remember those victims of the recent tragedy at Fort Hood, it would be a great gesture to hang those flags again for Veterans Day, if you have own any. Show our veterans that we care. Enjoy your holiday.

Good Day, Paul Harvey

Sunday, March 1st, 2009

He will be missed. Great broadcaster. Wonderful lover.

And now you know the rest of the story.

we knew this was coming

Friday, July 25th, 2008

“Divorce challenges gay couples”

That’s the line above an article in the Los Angeles Times that documents how breaking up can be so very much harder to do than getting married for same-sex couples.

So now we may find married gay men in California staying together just for the sake of the pool boy. And so it goes. Have a good weekend.

www.latimes.com

A Starr Is Born

Monday, July 21st, 2008

Today is the birthday of Ken Starr. Now a dean at a Southern California law school, Starr was the Special Prosecutor who went after President Bill Clinton for his extra-marital affair with Monica Lewinski like he was a hungry terrier and Clinton was a chuck roast.

Look at where America is today — no weapons of mass destruction were found, our exhausted armed forces are fighting an unnecessary and expensive war for us in the Middle East, thousands of homeless citizens were ignored by the government in the immediate wake of Hurricane Katrina, thousands of American homeowners are facing foreclosure, we’re finding it hard to afford gas and food, unemployment is on the rise, some banks have closed and we’re in the grips of an economic recession. But Starr started the ball rolling for Clinton’s impeachment because of an extra-marital affair.

I’m sorry, but — to borrow a line from the movie Good Morning, Vietnam — was there ever a white man in more dire need of a blow job than Ken Starr? I’m just sayin’. The former Special Prosecutor is 62.

my idea of heaven

Saturday, July 5th, 2008

The late Sen. Jesse Helms is waiting to meet God for his life-review to determine his place in Heaven. However, it’s a long wait. Longer than a DMV in Texas or California. Helms is in a waiting room with Blacks, Hispanics and Jews. The walls are decorated with framed photographs taken by Robert Mapplethorpe. The only available reading material is back issues of Essence, Spanish language newspapers, two biographies of Barbra Streisand, three on Rock Hudson, books on modern art, O magazine and copies of the short story Brokeback Mountain by Annie Proulx.

The receptionist will be Wayland Flowers and Madam. To me, that would be divine karma.

quick trip

Wednesday, June 25th, 2008

Just wanted to let you know that I will be a special guest riding in Mobile, Alabama’s first annual Gay Pride Parade this coming weekend. If you’re going to be down in that neck of the woods, please come see me and join the festivities.

Mark it down on your calendar — that’s Mobile, Alabama’s Gay Pride Parade taking place in downtown Mobile this coming Saturday afternoon from 3:00 to 3:02. See ya!

definition of “ironic”

Friday, June 6th, 2008

Ed McMahon is now one of the millions of Americans who hopes that the prize team from Publishers Clearing House will show up at his front door with a large check so he can escape foreclosure.

bitch…please!

Thursday, May 29th, 2008

I love dogs. But what is the problem with these hightone folks in New York City — college-educated and upscale — who don’t think that the “No Dogs Allowed” posted outside a deli market does not apply to them? Those signs are posted because of the health department requirements. Nevertheless, trendy New Yorkers will somehow think that because “Coco” is little, she’s okay to stand near the deli counter. That must’ve have been the logic of the well-dressed man this morning who brought, not one, but two little canines that resembled electric shoe polishers at an airport. That guys behind the counter and I just stared at him. The “No Dogs Allowed” sign was clearly posted on the door.

It’s at those times in life when I was I had a stun gun. I ranted about this to a friend of mine who has a dog. She replied, “Yeah..but if it’s tiny and..” I cut her off with “…tiny nothing. It’s an animal that walks around with an exposed anus. Have you seen how dogs greet each other in public? Why would I want that nose near the deli counter when someone is making my chicken salad sandwich? No. It’s wrong. If you were making dinner for company, how would you like it if I wafted through your kitchen with no shoes and no drawers on? Think of all that by the cheese and crackers. Keep the pets outside. No dogs allowed.” Is this happening where you live? Just curious.

a novel idea

Sunday, May 25th, 2008

National Public Radio has a Sunday morning news show that I like called “On The Media.” The show had a little contest for listeners. They were invited to write a novel in twelve words. Some very creative winners were read at the end of this morning’s broadcast. They ranged from dramatic to funny and all were enjoyable.

I didn’t enter the contest, but here’s my stab at it:

“He told her the house was haunted. Now her head is backwards.”